Makan, Sumo and Puke Fiesta 09

I guess as we get older err.. I mean wiser.. ;) our Hari Raya fiesta spirit would be more for the joy of having a long break.. but for the kiddies, it is something that they really look forward to.. Amir aka Memey (bukan Memey Suhaiza ye) who could now understand the meaning of raya, baju Melayu, songkok and duit raya was all excited and eager. And just like when we were kids who would stay up as late as we could on the eve of raya, both Amir and Sarah slept at almost 3 am that night.

We celebrated the first day of raya in Kajang. Since both my mum and dad are the eldest in the family, visits from relatives were like non stop from 10am - 11pm. Average number of pax per visit was like 30 pax! So we had no choice but to downgrade from pinggan kaca to pinggan plastik..hehe

For those who came on the first day, they were the lucky ones who got to taste my mum's infamous Rendang Mak Kasim -- this you won't be able to get anywhere else I swear! I have relatives who would come to visit on the first day for the sake of the rendang.. hehe.. Unfortuntely for the past 2 years, my mom or even myself have not had the time to bake my mum's infamous chocolate chip cookies but I plan to at least try and bake em' if we have an open house this year.

On the 2nd raya we all headed on to kuantan..on the way to kuantan we decided to stop by at koklie's inlaw's house in kg belimbing to see her and her syawal baby girl..just like last year Memey refused to wear anything else but a baju melayu to show his tok tan tapi sadly, macam tahun lepas gak amir puked all over his baju,my one and only branded handbag and in hubby's beloved car..we thought that was end the of it but Sarah joined in the puke fiesta when we almost reached the kg.

We were in Kuantan for 4 days and I stuffed myself with nasik minyak throughout..somehow nasik minyak seemed to be the favourite menu this year.. I ditched all my diet plan for the whole week..so, this week kena krash kozz diet lar konon..but I've so far failed miserably sebab ada je companies ajak gi their open house.. huhu..

All in all I think the kids really enjoyed their raya...especially bab dapat main ngan cousins sampai kul 2 pagi..They were also overjoyed when decided to stay at a hotel in KL that weekend sebab dapat mandi dalam swimming pool and bath tub.. I just could not tahan the constant bickering and 24-7 sumo wrestling.. adik belasah abang kat muka plak tu so amir had damn a lot of scratches on his face.. sian je beraya dengan muka macam kucing comot!

Hope you guys had a fun raya too!

Mak Cik Temah ngan Pak Maun

This is how far she could go to irritate the brother. Ni belum part dia gaduh nak pakai baju ultraman abang dia lagi.

Masalah tul adik aku ni...

Pakcik kayo!!

With the 3 dara pingitan..

This year ramai pulak pakai green.. Sorry mama, Sarah enter frame pastu photographer tak terer lak tu.. :p


Puteri Rania Sofia, koklie's lil baby girl who decided to pop out to celebrate raya with the family..

Don't be fooled by this innocent face..

Memey tengah kulum air sirap after I asked him to stop drinking his 6th glass of air sirap..

No more vomitting puleeesseeee... tak larat siot...

An Affair to Forget / To Remember?

Paul Newman once said of his lifelong marriage to Joanne Woodward, "Why go out for a hamburger when you can have steak at home?"

Is it in to have an affair these days? Seems like ramainya pulak manusia yang tengah ada affair -- but maybe in denial that they are indeed having one. Okay before I go on, how should we define an affair?
2 married person of different sex enjoying the company of each other + having great conversations+exchanging smses, emails -- would this be under the definition of an affair?

This is an article I found on the net:
On a recent British chat show that was dealing with the topic of infidelity, one of the participants was denying the fact that she'd had an affair.

"I didn't have an affair. It was a relationship that involved sex", she said. To me, that just sounded like a poor justification for cheating on her partner. However, I then realised that it is how the individual or, more importantly, a couple defines an affair. If a couple agree that an affair is something that involves more than sex e.g. companionship, understanding, empathy etc., then pure sex alone cannot be defined as an affair in the eyes of such a couple.

Personally, I would define an affair as an ongoing, dishonest relationship with someone other than your partner, which involves intense feelings such as deep affection, love or lust. By dishonest, I mean a relationship that is deliberately kept secret from the regular partner or one that involves deceit, such as lying to your partner about where you're going, where you've been, why you're late home or why you didn't come home at all.

I would regard any intimate physical contact with someone other than your partner as being unfaithful and that includes kissing, but a one-night stand is not an affair, it's a one-off act of infidelity.

When I asked my partner what his definition of an affair was, he said, "Spending quality time with anyone other than your partner", to which he immediately received certain favours for giving a more than adequate reply! When I then accused him of having an affair with his mates, with whom he enjoys the occasional game of football, he re-phrased that to, "Spending quality time with someone of the opposite sex then." Unless you happen to be gay or bisexual, in which case spending time with someone of either sex who is not your partner would meet the criteria of an affair.

My very possessive friend Julia, 33, told me that her definition of being unfaithful was, "Having lustful thoughts about someone other than your partner." If we all agreed with that definition, then I imagine everybody has been disloyal at some time in his or her life, even if it was only through a dream whilst asleep!

A work colleague of my partner had this to say. "There's nothing wrong with sleeping with someone purely for sexual gratification, even if you are in a long-term relationship. If there is no other feeling involved, then there is no threat to the relationship and it can therefore not be regarded as an affair. Just because you sleep with someone, does not mean that you have all the other feelings of love, respect and complete adoration that you have for your partner, so how can it be classed as betrayal?"

If you have any respect for your partner and, certainly, if you really love your other half, there is no way that you would even consider seeking gratification elsewhere. What about the guilt, the consequences from being caught out and the possibility that you may end up re-enacting a horrible scene from Fatal Attraction?

As far as I am concerned, if you are happy, then you don't have an affair, a one-night stand or even a passionate clinch in a drunken moment. Blaming the alcohol is another over-used, pathetic and completely non-feasible excuse for having a fling. Alcohol just gives you the courage to follow up your intentions, to act out some intimate scenario about which you have already fantasised.

Although there appears to be no clear definition of an affair, one thing is evident. A couple has to establish firm ground rules about what is and isn't acceptable conduct, before entering into a long-term commitment.

Mann...people say that marriage is tough but then go and have an affair? Why not work on the marriage? Tak ke lagi susah tu bila ada affair..nak cover line lagi.. yeah rasa macam on cloud 9 but tak takut ke rasa bahang api ataupun panahan petir?

Me not here to judge. I know everyone has got their unique little problems and of course expectations. I guess you should follow the path of happiness righteously. Because if it's the wrong path, it would not be easy to find your way out.

I pray that you'll find the happiness that you seek. Actually I'm sure that you will... if you decide to do the right thing.

What you have missed

1. I have now sold about 150 pairs of shoes! Thank you very much to those who had bought the shoes -- trust me -- what you've bought are definitely not the same as those selling at Jalan TAR okay. And my heartfelt appreciation goes to Hida who I nearly hired to be my part time agent coz she's just soo good in promoting the shoes, Nik who had cooked a yummylicious lasagna and organized a mini crocs buka puasa and to Fern+ Azah who had promoted the shoes to their colleagues and siap book meeting room lagi and my sis in laws who bought the shoes for their kiddies. You guys are the best! :)

2. New boss. Maybe it's too early to judge but my new boss is nice. She's young -- 37 years old I think. She has that infectious smile and she's just very cool. So far takde nak kelam kabut. I likkkeeee...

3. New handphone. Finally got meself a new handphone. Was contemplating between a Nokia and a Blackberry. But I guess I'm so used to the simplistic life -- hence the new Nokia E75. Totally love the keyboard. Totally love the fact that I can easily sms while driving.

4. Sarah's first sentence --- Yaya aik amis ngan Memey --- translation: Yaya naik Thomas dengan Memey.

5. New car -- nope not for me -- but yeah..my dad has a new car, a red Proton Saga with the black top. Jiwa muda, I tell you.. To those from my yesteryears, you might still remember my dad's old Volvo in green.. THE car yang paling banyak berjasa to the family and budak2 SMAP yang nak fly pegi Kajang.. ;) I don't think my dad will ever sell the car.

6. Madam C adopted a baby girl. As at today, the baby is 11 days old. I think it's sweet. I hope being a mother would change Madam C for the better. Despite everything, I believe she could be a good mother.

7. I have lost 4 kg this Ramadhan! Woohoo!

8. I have not had the time to test drive any car hence no new car for raya.

9. I only have 2 pairs of baju raya this year. You think it's enough or do I have to brave through the throng of people at Jalan TAR again on Raya eve?

10. My neighbour painted his house green.. hmmm... ?

No laptop..no blog..

I miss blogging.

My laptop konged out on me so I can only blog from K.Arida's laptop. So feel tu ada sikit kureng la...

Trying to get it fixed ASAP and will resume to blogging in a more appropriate manner.